Grief and loss can have an impact on the health of your body, mind and feelings. Heartbreak over the loss of a family member or friend, or a major change in the circumstances of your life – even a positive one – can trigger mournful feelings that can be hard to shake. Any emotions you feel are “alive” in your chakras and the aura of energy around your body. Feelings that are held over a long period of time, or that are suppressed in an attempt to “move on” faster than you’re really able, are internalized in the energy field and can affect your body and your physical health (especially the heart and lungs, as discussed here). The more we are able to process and release feelings of grief, sorrow, hurt, loss or regret, the healthier and happier we will be.
To that end, here are some natural suggestions to help to process and heal from grief.
Accept what you’re feeling and recognize that you may need to feel it before you can move through it and get beyond it. This amount of time this can take is different for everyone.
These approaches offer physical and energetic tools to help you release the stress, strain, pain and hurt that you’re feeling in ways that are simple and effective. Skeptics, please check out my blog entry about energy psychology.
It’s usually recommended that people who are depressed or who are suffering a loss engage in some physical activity. Exercise helps your body to release stuck emotions and secretes endorphins which help pick up your mood. Listening to upbeat music can have the same effect!
Doing something creative – even if it’s as simple as finger-painting, making a collage, or building a mashed-potato volcano – can help you channel some of the big emotions you’re feeling into something outside of you. Artwork, creative writing or journaling can help you understand new aspects of what you’re feeling – which often helps the painful feelings to lessen and be released.
“Keep busy” is common advice when you’re hurting. I suggest keeping busy – in moderation. If you’re doing too much, the feelings you’re running so fast to avoid will still be there when you slow down. In the meantime, they can make you sick. It is, however, very important to keep motivated and on track with the things that you enjoy that were meaningful before your loss. Spend time outdoors; go out for dinner with friends; sing, write, or do whatever makes you feel successful and happy. Likewise, make sure you’re getting enough (but not too much) sleep.
You will not be grateful after your grieving period is over if you’ve let your health decline, nor would your lost loved ones appreciate you doing yourself harm in their absence. Feeling bad is not an excuse to let your health slide, especially since doing so will only leave you feeling worse.
Whether this means taking the time to listen to music, indulging in a spa day, or getting a massage, it’s important that you nourish yourself emotionally and spiritually. Herbal aids like the Bach homeopathic ‘Rescue Remedy,’ St. John’s Wort, or the powerful essential oil blends like “Joy” and “White Angelica” are a helpful way to support your emotional healing during this time.
It’s important to remember that, even when the world seems its darkest, there is light at the end of the tunnel. You bring this fragile daylight nearer every time you laugh at something a coworker says or take the time to spend an enjoyable evening with a friend. Welcoming joy back into your life after a loss is the only way to truly, finally heal.